Showing posts with label books and quotes. Show all posts
Showing posts with label books and quotes. Show all posts

Sunday, June 8, 2025

A Photograph for All Eternity

On the day all these photos were taken, none of the men, children, women who posed innocently in front of the camera could have thought that that moment would represent them for all eternity.
Valerie Perrin in Fresh Water for Flowers, p. 40, ¶2 

I don't have a vast collection of family photographs.  Perhaps that's why some of the few I do have have become indelibly ingrained in my memory.  They bring me joy at odd moments when I remember them. 
  • My mother as a girl with a huge white bow in her hair, standing with her sister.  How did she keep that bow in place?!
  • My nephew as a 3-year-old in a bike carrier behind his father holding an umbrella.  Almost 60 years after it was taken, this photo still makes me chuckle when I think of it.
  • My grandfather's family sitting on a hill in the grass with half the family looking as angry as all get-out, some of the others with snickers on their faces.  What happened in the half hour before that photo was taken and who will be in trouble after they get up?
  • My father as a young man in work clothes standing outside the barn with a pipe in his mouth and thumbs hooked under his arms.  A show-off, or did he manage some great accomplishment?
  • My grandmother, my sister and I, and our cousins coming up from the lake, soaked to the bone.  I remember those summer days.
  • My great-grandfather Fred as a young man with a bald head and big mustache.  I always imagined him as tall with lots of dark hair.
  • My great-grandmother Elvira standing with one of her daughters, with both their heads tipped to their right at the same angle.  Does she have the same eye problem I have in which the lenses align only if her head is tipped slightly?

Some of these photos make me laugh, many I wish I knew the background stories.  Others I'm just grateful to have.  And I'm sure, as Valerie Perrin says, none of the people probably imagined they'd be remembered this way for all eternity.

Do you have photographs of ancestors that are indelibly imprinted in your mind?

—Nancy.

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Thursday, March 24, 2022

Books for Women's History Month, 2022

March is almost over and this is my first post for Women's History Month.  I didn't want the month to run out before I share a few books that focus in one way or another on women's history.  These books are, for the most part, about either one woman or a small group of women who made history or lived through a challenging time period.  There are four adult non-fiction books, two children's biographies, and four fiction with women as the main characters in historical settings.  Perhaps you will enjoy one of them.


This Time Next Year We'll be Laughing by Jacqueline Winspear
This seemed like a hopeful book to read at the beginning of 2021, in the midst of the Covid-19 pandemic.  And it was.  I loved this memoir.  Winspear grew up in the late 1950s and 1960s in England.  I love the detail about picking hops, oast houses, her parents’ time living in a gypsy caravan, and the other memories and insights she shared of her own childhood and youth.  Her parents taught her to work and that work would take care of many emotions—anger, sadness, unhappiness.  After surgery on her eyes when she was young, her face was black and blue.  When her father first saw her after the surgery, he held her close and told her, “This time next year we’ll be laughing”  I love the subtle admission that now is rough combined with the strong suggestion that things will get better in the future.


The Ride of Her Life:  The True Story of a Woman, Her Horse, and Their Last-Chance Journey Across America by Elizabeth Letts
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book.  As the book opens, 62-year-old Annie Wilkins goes to the hospital with a bout of pneumonia.  While there, recovering, her Uncle Waldo is sent to a care home where he dies.  When Annie returns home the doctor tells her to live restfully.  She has a farm to take care of, now without the help of her uncle, and she doesn’t have enough money to pay taxes on the farm to keep it.  She gets free seeds from the pickle factory, plants them all, and earns enough money to leave the farm behind. She decides to buy a horse and ride to California to fulfill the dream her mother had of visiting the state.  She buys Tarzan, a Morgan horse, packs up her possessions–at least what she believes she’ll need on the trip—and with her little dog, Depeche Toi, they set off from Minot, Maine, in November, 1954.  The book recounts her travels, negotiating highways with her horse, her interactions with those she meets along the way including those who give her shelter and help, and incorporates a bit of history of some of the places she stayed.  Through the book we get an idea of what it was like living in the mid-1950s.  One of the themes Letts brings up several times is the change in outlook from the view of a safe America to one of uncertainty about strangers vs. potential acquaintances/neighbors/friends that was happening at that time in America.


The Dressmakers of Auschwitz:  The True Story of the Women Who Sewed to Survive by Lucy Adlington 
   In some ways this book was hard to read but it was so worth it.  The author introduces the reader to a number of young, female seamstresses as they grow into adulthood in Slovakia, Czechoslovakia, Germany, and France, and find themselves prisoners in the Auschwitz-Birkenau concentration camp where they were eventually selected to become seamstresses in a salon for the wives of Nazi leaders.  (I can’t imagine having to do a work I love for people who treat me like vermin.)  Without being too graphic the author presents the situation of the captives and takes us into the concentration camp, showing the reader several areas of the camp including Kanada, warehouses of looted goods from the people held in the concentration camp.  It was interesting to learn how friendships formed and how some prisoners supported each other.  Almost a behind-the-scenes look at some aspects of Auschwitz.
   The book is based on research and interviews with 98-year-old Bracha Berkovic KohĂșt, and daughters, granddaughters, and other family members of those who were in Auschwitz.
   Early in the book the author discussed how fashion can create unity (and to some extent, pride) in a group of people, something I had never thought about.  Think Boy Scout uniforms to military uniforms and even national folk costumes.  Fashion can also create divisiveness.
   I came away with the lesson that resistance can be manifest in a variety of ways.


Nothing Stopped Sophie.  The Story of Unshakable Mathematician Sophie Germain by Barbara McClintock, illustrated by Cheryl Bardoe
This is a children's book about Sophie Germain, who lived in the late 1700s and early 1800s in Paris during the French Revolution at a time when the education of girls and women was minimal.  She loved math and persisted to become a mathematician.  Beautiful illustrations and well-written story.  Though written for younger children, I noticed that some of the words (for example, scoffed, scholar, prodigy) are above the level of a 5-6-year-old.  Still, a way for them to learn new words in an inviting way.


The Girl Who Thought in Pictures:  The Story of Temple Grandin by Julia Finley Mosca, illustrated by Daniel Rieley
Temple Grandin was diagnosed with autism when she was a young adult.  Because of that different ability, she has become an expert on animal science, invented cruelty-free livestock facilities, earned a PhD, and is a livestock expert.   This book, in verse, points out that being different is not being worse. At the end there is a 2-page spread with fun facts and tidbits from the author’s chat with Temple; another 2-page spread with a time line; and a more detailed biography for adults. Temple Grandin is one of my favorite contemporary great ladies.


The Kitchen Front by Jennifer Ryan.
This is a fiction book that offers a new twist on the World War II experience.   The setting is a small town in England in 1942 when food rationing is a major concern for the women of the time.  There are four main characters, all women, who participate in a cooking contest to become a co-host for a BBC radio program about cooking with rations.  Audrey is a war widow with 3 sons; Lady Gwendoline is her sister, and they are at odds with each other; Zelda is a chef who wasn’t able to find work in London after the restaurant where she worked was bombed; and Nell is a cook’s helper for Mrs. Quince at Lady Gwendoline’s manor.  Different backgrounds, different personalities, different challenges.  I really enjoyed this book, especially because of it’s focus on women and their roles in a historical setting.  A ration recipe is included at the end of some chapters.


The Dictionary of Lost Words by Pip Williams
What a great book of fiction! I loved it and I loved the premise of the book, that words relating to women were excluded from early dictionaries.  We meet Esme Nicoll in 1886 when she is about 4. Because her mother is dead, she plays under the table where her father works in the Scriptorium.  He is a lexicographer, helping to define words for the upcoming publication of a new version of the Oxford English Dictionary.  The words are written on 4" x 6" cards of paper, called slips.  Each include a word, its definition, and a sentence in which the word is used.  As she grows older Esme falls in love with words, and realizes that most of the words in the dictionary, and their definitions, are decided by men, and that there are words by, for, about, and used by women that are not included.  She begins her own collection of slips.


Hannah Coulter by Wendell Berry
I loved this work of fiction, written almost as if it's a memoir.   Hannah is an 80-year-old widow (born in 1920) who tells the story of her life. The book is beautifully written with a down-to-earth, yet sometimes lyrical, voice. Hannah has plenty of insights.  For example, Hannah describes her grandmother’s clothing and says, “'The girls of her day, I think, must have been like well-wrapped gifts, to be opened by their husbands on their wedding night, a complete surprise. ‘”Well! What’s this?”’” A delight to read.


The Downstairs Girl by Stacey Lee
I loved this work of fiction for young adults.  The language and writing were beautiful and the story was interesting and insightful.  It is filled with surprising similes.  Written in first person, the story takes place in 1890 in Atlanta where 17-year-old Chinese girl Jo Kuan lives with Old Gin, an older man who took her in when she was a baby.  They secretly live in the basement of the home and print shop of one of the local newspapers.  At the beginning of the story Jo works in a hat shop decorating women’s hats but is fired because she makes the customers “uncomfortable.”  She returns to work for the wealthy family as a lady’s maid to their haughty daughter who is about the same age as Jo.  The story leads us through mysteries (to learn who Jo’s parents are), romance, surprising challenges, and adventure, all with the thread of discrimination running through it—against blacks, Chinese, and women—and their attempts to overcome it.  One thing I will say is that Jo seems older and more mature than any 17-year-old I’ve ever known.  And though published as a teen/young adult book, I think some of the content would be more appropriate for a slightly older audience.


Previous posts recommending books for women's history

I hope you've found at least one good book to read for Women's History Month.  If so, what is it?

-–Nancy.

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Saturday, August 14, 2021

Photographs without Stories


"‘I always think they’re rather sad things, photographs, when someone dies.  One is left with the pictures, but none of the stories.’"                     Susanna Kearsley
                           in Every Secret Thing

If your family is like mine, you have more photos than you have stories to go with them.  Don't you wish for more?  Names for faces, locations, any details to add context to the photos?

I have few stories about the photos in my mother's album.  She was such a private person that a "story" might be a sentence long--if she told any story at all.  I always wish for more. 

In the case of this photograph, my mother was good friends with another nursing student in the photo whose daughter contacted me and shared this photo and a few others, along with the story her mom told her.   (Thank you, Dorla!)

But there are so many other photos and no one to tell the stories. . . .

-–Nancy.

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Sunday, April 18, 2021

The Power of Storytelling

The title of this book, This Time Next Year We'll be Laughing, captured my attention when I saw it last fall.  It sounded like the perfect book for a pandemic year and being a fan of Jacqueline Winspear, I was sure it would be interesting and readable.  It had nothing to do with a pandemic but yes, it was engaging and well-written.  The author and I are contemporaries though she lived across the ocean in England.  The title comes from something her father used to say when Winspear or her family faced one of life's challenges.  I love the subtle encouragement and suggestion that looks to a better future.

Below is a paragraph from the book with Winspear's thoughts about the power of storytelling.
...It has only been since I began to write this memoir that I have reconsidered the power of storytelling on so many levels.  Of course, we know a story can change even a nation—the stories told by politicians, especially tyrants, dictators and despots, have sent young men and women to perish on battlefields for millennia.  Countries and peoples have been brought to their knees by stories, and equally they have been given the strength to rise up, to endure and to show strength beyond measure.  But as much as stories bring warmth to our days, help us find our voices or work things out, stories—even the ones considered entertaining—can also damage, create doubt, cause an aching distress or a wounding humiliation.  Words have the potential to cause such pain, it’s a wonder the dictionary doesn’t come with a government health warning.

More on Stories and Storytelling
  • Good Reasons to Tell Family Stories, thoughts on Bruce Feiler's 2013 article, "The Stories That Bind Us," and 
  • Why Stories Are Important, highlighting Charles Hale's video, "In Charlie's Space and Time:  Charles Hale, Storyteller & Historian" in which he suggests that stories can help develop community and help heal.

Thinking of all three of these authors' thoughts, my takeaway is that stories can be a two-edged sword and that we, as family historians, must take care how we tell stories so we don't wound a family member, someone we love. 

Your thoughts on family stories?

-–Nancy.

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Saturday, March 20, 2021

When Women's History and Quilting Coincide

Something fun happens in March:  it's both National Women's History Month and National Quilting Month.  I haven't done anything for either this year but decided to combine them with this post. 

The information in this post is primarily for descendants of farmers and farmers' wives (with less emphasis on the quilters they may have been) and involves how some farm wives felt about living on farms in the 1920s.  I was introduced to a magazine called The Farmer's Wife a few years ago when I came upon two books, The Farmer's Wife Sampler Quilt:  Letters from 1920s Farm Wives... and The Farmer's Wife 1930s Sampler Quilt:  Inspiring Letters from farm women of the Great Depression..., both by Laurie Aaron Hurd.



For family historians, the letters that accompany the quilt blocks are the highlight of these books.  They were written by farmers' wives of the 1920s and 1930s in response to a question posed by the magazine editors.  You will get a glimpse of what farm life was like during those years.  You probably won't find an ancestor's letter, though you may, and your ancestor may not have felt exactly as the writers of the published letters felt, but you'll get a sense of what it may have been like to be a woman living on a farm.  (Yes, it's possible that the letter writers idealized their situations or focused on the positive aspects of farm life while avoiding the negative.)

In the January, 1922, issue the magazine posed a question and offered prizes for the 68 best responses.  The question was this.
Do You Want Your Daughter To Marry A Farmer?
If you had a daughter of marriageable age, would you, in the light of
your experience on the farm, want her to marry a farmer and make
her future life on a farm?  If so, why?  If not, why not?

The editors of The Farm Wife encouraged the women of 1922 to carefully consider their responses, review various aspects of farm life vs. living elsewhere, and to discuss their responses with other family members.  The responses were due by noon on March 1 and the prizewinners were to be published in the June issue. 

Just in case anyone missed the announcement in the January issue, the question and competition were announced again in the February issue. 

The June issue published responses on pages 8 and 9.  The editors said they'd received over 7,000 responses, 94% in the affirmative.  Some letters were fairly long.  I was unable to find whether all the winners' letters were published or not.  I did not able to discover them in subsequent issues.  I admire Laurie Aaron Hurd's ability to find them!  

Here are two responses (possibly excerpts from longer letters) that Hurd included in her first book (on pages 64 and 99).  There are 111 blocks in the 1920s book and each has an excerpt from a letter in the book.  Lots to read.

Mrs. R. C. W. of Jasper County, Mo., wrote,
The average farmer’s wife who plans her work can find a number of hours for reading, writing and social pleasures and in this day of autos and good roads, has time and opportunity for movies, concerts and lectures.  The woman who is a drudge on a farm will be a drudge wherever you put her.  It is lack of management, lack of order and lack of backbone and brains that make drudgery.

Mrs. M. M. C. of Allegheny County, Pa., wrote,
The work of the farmer’s wife is often burdensome.  This can be helped by the spirit in which it is done and by the putting some of the element of play into it.  If some task is to be done, attempt it, believing it to be a recreation and notice the difference in your outlook.  Since we are only children grown up, and a child is taught to love work by doing it as play, cannot grownups try this a little?  Too often we forget that work is a blessing God has given us; that He meant each of us to be a producer–not to be content with doing less than our share.  Life is what we make it and the busy person is always a happy one.
My farm wife ancestors include my grandmother, Beulah (Gerner) Doyle; her mother, Elvira (Bartley) Gerner, and my great-grandmother, Tressa (Froman) Doyle.  It's possible and likely that Elizabeth (Armitage) Meinzen was a farm wife, or at least a gardener's wife, but I don't believe she was able to read.  I wish I knew whether they subscribed to this magazine and how they felt about being farm wives.

You can learn more about The Farmer's Wife at this previous post,  The Farmer's Wife Magazine.

-–Nancy.

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Sunday, February 28, 2021

Sifting Through the Stories


     "Over the years, certain stories in the history of a family
take hold.  They're passed from generation to generation,
gaining substance and meaning along the way.  You have to
learn to sift through them, separating fact and conjecture, the
likely from the implausible.
     "Here is what I know:  Sometimes the least believable
stories are the true ones."
                                                from A Piece of the World
                                                by Christina Baker Kline
 
–Nancy.

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Sunday, January 24, 2021

Who Will Tell Their Stories?

From The Sweetness of Forgetting by Kristen Harmel.
    ‘When I realized that the ones I loved were never coming home, I began to think about the great tragedy, not just of their deaths but of the loss of their legacies....  For when you take away an entire family, and they all perish, who will tell their stories?’
    ‘No one,’ I murmur.
    ‘PrĂ©cisĂ©ment.  And when that occurs, it is as if their lives have been lost twice over....’

This conversation took place about a family lost in World War II.  I think it's equally true of our ancestors, whether they lived and died during a war or lived and died during times of peace.  If the stories of our ancestors are not told it is as if their lives have been lost.

–Nancy.

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Wednesday, March 11, 2020

A Trio of Books for Women's History Month, 2020

In a year's time I usually read several good books related to women in history.  This year I came up a little short.   Still, I think these three are worth reading if the times and places are of interest to you.

The Hidden Lives of Tudor Women:  A Social History 
by Elizabeth Norton
     This book is organized into the seven ages of Tudor women which Norton categorized as infants; young ladies; marriage; tradeswomen; pilgrimages and punishments; settlements and proposals; and old age.  The author often uses well-known royal figures to describe the ages, though also includes “common” women to detail events in women’s lives.  (I suspect the information available through her research informed the author's decision about which women and details she could include.) 

The text was occasionally interrupted with sidebars that were two columns wide and sometimes a page or two long.  They were well-defined and placed so as not to interrupt the flow of the content and paragraphs both before and after them.  Some of the topics in these sidebars include, “A Pleasant Pastime for a Child,” Samplers and Stitchery,” “Those Things that Prohibit Conception,” “Cutpurses and Arsonists,” “Angels Food and Holy Maids,” etc.  You get the idea.  They were interesting and added depth to the rest of the content of the book.

One sentence gives a good idea about the standing of women at that time.
Despite everything they actually did to earn themselves, and their dependents, an income, for Tudor women it remained their marital status that defined them rather than the type of work, business or trade that they might pursue.  (p. 111)
Reading about and trying to imagine the situation of Tudor women, from birth throughout their lives into old age, makes me shudder.  It also makes me hold them in high esteem:  they were not weak women.  Looking from the perspective of 2020 to the Tudor age (1485-1603) I am grateful to be alive now, not only because of the near-equal standing of women in society but also because of the freedoms we enjoy and the modern conveniences we have.

If your ancestors come from England and you're interested in social history, you may enjoy this book and its look into the lives of women of that time.


Down Cut Shin Creek:  The Pack Horse Librarians of Kentucky 
by Kathi Appelt & Jeanne Cannella Schmitzer
     This is a children’s chapter book with many photos of the pack horse librarians, an imagined day with one of them, and an explanation of the program.  I thought it gave an excellent, simple overview of the program.

I found Down Cut Shin Creek after reading The Book Woman of Troublesome Creek, by Kim Michele Richardson, which tells the fictional story of young Cussy Mary and her mule, Junia, who carried books to patrons through the hills and coal mining areas of eastern Kentucky.  Cussy Mary described herself as a "Blue" and resulted in her being considered colored and treated as such.  It was a good introduction to the hardships and challenges of pack horse librarians as well as the discrimination associated with being a person of color in the 1940s.

Cussy Mary’s father's comment about books, “A sneaky time thief is in them books.  There’s more important ways to spend a fellar’s time,” suggests the challenges of introducing books and reading to the people of that time and location.  Building trust and persuading people that reading was a good thing is a theme throughout the book.


Victoria the Queen:  An Intimate Biography of the Woman Who Ruled an Empire 
by Julia Baird
     I appreciated the detail of this book which includes Victoria's interactions with her contemporaries and her perspectives of current events of the time and, more importantly, how she instituted changes.  Most of us probably have some awareness and knowledge of Victoria and the Victorian time period.  This book gave me a greater insight into Victoria and her life.  As the author suggests in the introductory paragraphs, Victoria wasn't perfect.  She had her faults, yet she was a great queen despite her faults.

The subject of child labor repeats throughout the book as changes came about, little by little, decade after decade.  In July, 1832, at the age of 13, Victoria travelled to Wales.  She described the impact of coal mining in the country near Birmingham.  My coal mining ancestors lived further north, in Durham and Northumberland, however I suspect the description below would apply equally to both locations.
The men, women, children, country and houses are all black.  The country is very desolate everywhere; there is coal about, and the grass is quite blasted and black.  I just now see an extraordinary building flaming with fire.  The country continues black, engines flaming, coals in abundance, everywhere smoking and burning coal-heaps, intermingled with wretched huts and carts and little ragged children.      (p. 41)

Reporting on Victoria’s Diamond Jubilee in 1898, Mark Twain wrote,
'British history is two thousand years old, and yet in a good many ways the world has moved further ahead since the Queen was born than it moved in all the rest of the two thousand years put together....  She has seen more things invented than any other monarch that ever lived.’  Since Victoria ascended to the throne in 1837, the lives of people in her country and around the world had been transformed by the invention of the railway, steamship, telegraph, telephone, sewing machine, electric light, typewriter, camera, and more.    (p. 465)
Again, if you have ancestors who lived in England during the reign of Queen Victoria, this will give you insight into what their lives may have been like. 

Have you read any of these books and, if so, what did you think?  Do you have other books to recommend for women's history?

--Nancy.

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Saturday, March 16, 2019

Recommending Books for Women's History Month, 2019

My original idea for this post was to list my favorite women's history books from less favorite to most favorite with my most favorite last.  As I reviewed these books I realized that about eight of them rank in the #1 position so they're not really in any particular order, though the last two are my most favorite.  There's a broad range of books --  letters, biographies, memoirs, a cookbook -- from various time periods.  I hope you'll find at least one book you'd like to read, perhaps one that parallels the life of an ancestor your know, or the occupation of an ancestor, or just one that interests you from this collection of books about women in history.

Not Becoming My Mother & Other Things She Taught Me Along the Way.  Ruth Reichl
     The author's mother, born in 1909, had plans for her daughter.  Her parents sent her to music school even though she wanted to be a doctor.  It wasn’t until after her mother’s death that Ruth learned of the sacrifices her mother made so that Ruth could live a different, freer life.
     I thought this was a great family history book, made all the better because Ruth’s mother had left lots of notes, letters, and other ephemera.

Half Broke Horses:  A True-Life Novel.  Jeannette Walls   
     This is a collection of stories (presented in chronological order) about the author’s grandmother, Lily Casey Smith.  Lily told the stories to her daughter -- to impart life lessons -- who recounted them to the author.  Walls commented that Lily was a very real person – she called her a character, with all due respect – but because she didn’t have the stories word-for-word and had to fill in some of the hazy or missing details with her own imagination, she thought the only honest thing was to call the book a novel.
     Lily was born in the early 1900s and grew up on a ranch in the Arizona territories.  If she had had a weaker character or less stamina, her life would have been completely different.  She helped her father break horses when she was six; traveled hundreds of miles alone on horseback to teach school when she was 15; learned to drive a car and fly a plane; and, to a great extent, chose the life she wanted to live, or, at the very least, lived well the life that came her way.  The book is written in the first person and I came away feeling that I had a good idea what Lily would have been like in real life:  a character to love.

The Witches:  Salem, 1692.  Stacy Schiff
     If you have ancestors who lived in Salem or any nearby community in the 1690s you may find this book interesting.  I found it interesting as wells  challenging.  The cast of characters was extensive but their stories were scattered through the chapters.  It gave me a different perspective of life in the 1690s among the Puritans.  While reading I couldn't help but wonder how the people could have been duped by a 9-year-old and an 11-year-old.  I wrote a more extended post about this book which you can read here. 

Empty Mansions:  The Mysterious Life of Hugette Clark and the Spending of a Great American Fortune.
Bill Dedman and Paul Clark Newell, Jr.
     I loved this book!  The writing was interesting and it was well-documented with nearly 50 pages of notes at the end.  It had photographs in both black and white and color.  And it had heart.  Hugette’s father, W.A. Clark, was one of the wealthiest men in America at the time he died in the late 1920s.  (He was born in common circumstances in 1839 in a 4-room log cabin in Pennsylvania.  He moved from one success to another, accumulating wealth as the years passed.)  Upon his death, Hugette (pronounced oo-GET) and four of her half-siblings inherited millions of dollars.  In the book she was described as “shy” or “eccentric,” but as I read about her life I realized that she was an introvert.  She was incredibly generous with her wealth and derived pleasure from sharing it with others.  She was an artist, a musician, a doll-collector, and a lover of the arts.  She owned paintings by Renoir, Monet, Manet, Degas, among others.  She owned several mansions, yet lived in an apartment until she was in her 80s.  She developed cancer of the face and moved to a hospital, staying there nearly 20 years until her death.  Eccentric?  Yes.  But oh-so-interesting.

Don’t Sing at the Table:  Life Lessons from My Grandmothers.  Adriana Trigiani
     Trigiani's grandmothers, born in the early 1900s, were recent immigrants with strong ties to Italy and Italian traditions.  Both worked in the clothing industry when young, married, and raised children.  One opened her own blouse factory with her husband.  The other, widowed at a young age, supported her family as a couture seamstress in Chisholm, Minnesota.  The author touches on dates and locations but she focuses on her grandmothers’ attributes, personalities, the lives they lived, the morals they lived by, and the values they held.
     Her grandmothers were wise women with sage advice and I learned (or was sometimes reminded of) excellent rules to live by.  (“Pay your bills.  Clean up your debts as you go; let the obligation to pay off the debt fuel your ambition. . . .   Have a moral code that elevates your thinking, and your behavior will follow. . . . Take a chance, and when you fail, take another.  There is no limit on risk; aim high and aim true.  Be bold.  Be different.  Remember who you come from; you owe them because they gave you the ticket to this adventure.  Honor the debt.”)
     In some ways I think this is the kind of book that every family historian should write about an ancestor he/she knows or knew.

In My Hands:  Memories of a Holocaust Rescuer.
Irene Gut Opdyke with Jennifer Armstrong
     Irene was a 17-year-old Catholic nursing student when war came to Poland.  She was captured, escaped, then captured again.  When she saw the atrocities being committed, she chose to help:  food under the ghetto fence at first, then transporting people in horse-drawn carts under piles of straw, then finally harboring a dozen people in the basement of a Wehrmacht major’s villa.  She was “only a girl” but she did great things.  Well worth the read.  In fact, as I was reading it I was thinking this is a true life thriller.
    I have often wondered what the Holocaust victims thought when they saw blue skies, birds, other beauties of nature.  Irena wrote,
     Surely, the evil being done in my county must be a poison that would ruin the soil, tarnish the air, and foul the water.  Sometimes, when I thought of the amount of hatred dwelling in Poland, I was surprised to see that the grass was still green, that the trees still flourished their leaves against a blue sky.
     And yet they did.  It is a terrible irony of war, that nature itself does not rebel when man turns against his brother.  I have seen nightmares take place on beautiful spring days.  The birds can hop from one branch to another, tipping their heads and honing their small beaks against the bark while a child dies in the mud below.

She Left Me the Gun:  My Mother's Life Before Me.  Emma Brockes
     Several times Emma’s mother said to her, “One day I will tell you the story of my life and you will be amazed.”  Her mother died without telling her and Emma sets off to learn about her mother’s childhood in South Africa and her immigration to England by tracking down all of her aunts and uncles and traveling back to South Africa.  Excellent sleuthing for those who know living relatives.
     Emma said, “I think about it [her mother’s childhood to adult experience] afterward, what I am doing and why.  The stronger reaction, I think, would be to walk away, to honor the firewall my mother put between her past and my present and to carry on with my life.  But I can’t....  While she was alive, it was none of my business.  Now, unless I make it my business, it will follow her into oblivion.”

Bold Spirit.  Helga Estby’s Forgotten Walk Across Victorian America.  Linda Lawrence Hunt   
     Hunt put Helga in time and place and shares it all with us.  Helga walked across America with her daughter to earn $10,000 to save her home and farm from foreclosure.  And then her story was silenced until the smallest thread was found and shared by one of Helga’s great-grandchildren.  Hunt discusses reasons why stories might be silenced.  Read a previous post here.


A Midwife's Tale:  The Life of Martha Ballard, Based on Her Diary, 1785--1812.  Laurel Thatcher Ulrich.
     Martha Ballard was 50 in 1785 when she started her diary.  She wrote daily, usually just a few sentences:  always about the weather; usually about her comings and goings; the births and deaths attended; her house and garden work; and sometimes about the events in the community around her.   I love the interpretations and discussion which follow the diary entries in each chapter.  Thatcher's words add further light and insight.
     I think Martha Ballard is a hero to me.  She was such a faithful woman.  She served so many people in so many ways.  She was spunky:  she was still digging in her garden, starting new beds, and planting until she was 76, a year before she died.  I think she was an amazing woman.
     I loved this book.  I posted a more extensive review here.

The Midwife:  A Memoir of Birth, Joy, and Hard Times.
Jennifer Worth
     The setting is 1950s Poplar, an area of London, England, near the docks where the primary dialect is Cockney.  Nurse Jennifer Lee works as a midwife with a group of nuns who serve the women of the area.  Most chapters are self-contained stories, though some stories continue for several chapters.
     One of the interesting aspects of the book is being able to learn how the author's perspective changed as she came to learn about and know the people she served.
     If you're interested in language, dialect, accents, and slang, be sure to read "On the difficulties of writing the Cockney dialect" in the appendix.  It's a dozen pages of fun.
     Jennifer Worth wrote two sequels to this book:  Shadows of the Workhouse and Farewell to the East End.  The first year or two of PBS series "The Midwife" is based on these books.

Little Heathens:  Hard Times and High Spirits on an Iowa Farm During the Great Depression.  Mildred Armstrong Kalish
     This was a fun book.  I enjoyed the author’s writing style and the experiences she shared.  She included recipes, homemaking tips, etc.  She said she grew up thinking that certain expressions were one word:  agoodwoman, hardearnedmoney, agoodhardworker, alittleheathen, agoodwoolshirt.  Worth the read.



Women's Diaries of the Westward Journey.  Lillian Schlissel
     Great book!  I have so much appreciation for those women.  Just amazing some of the experiences they had.  One of the women, Amelia Stewart Knight, was 3 months pregnant when they started the journey and nearly due toward the end when she was climbing up a mountain over rock, and back down the other side of the mountain.  One woman talked about three days of rain with children and a newborn baby and nowhere to get dry.  Another woman said that when they finally arrived to their destination, her husband drove her to the barren land on which sat a tiny sod hut and said something like, “Isn’t that the most beautiful sight you’ve ever seen?”  The women never mentioned being pregnant in their journals/letters.  The nearest they came was to saying “ill.”  Amazing women!!!
In the end, a woman who came through the journey felt she had won her own victory.  The test of the journey was whether or not she had been equal to the task of holding her family together against the sheer physical forces that threatened to spin them to the four winds of chance.  It was against the continual threat of dissolution that the women had striven.

The Tin Ticket:  The Heroic Journey of Australia’s Convict Women.  Deborah J. Swiss
     This was nearly edge-of-the-seat good.  I could hardly put it down.  Most of the narrative focuses on two Scottish teen girls sentenced to transportation to Van Diemans Land.  Their paths later cross with that of a mother and her daughter who were also sentenced to transportation.  It’s a compelling story.  The women in this book triumphed over adversity beyond my imagination.  I posted a more detailed review here.

Farm Wife:  A Self-Portrait, 1886-1896.  Virginia E. McCormick
     I enjoyed this book immensely.  It is taken from the diaries of Margaret Dow Gebby, an Ohio farm wife.  It set me down on a farm during the same time period when my ancestors farmed.  The content is presented topically and is edited heavily from the original diary but the editor included some very helpful and insightful comments between diary entries.  All of the diaries are available at the Ohio Historical Society.  I wrote previously about this book here.


A Fortunate Grandchild and Time Remembered.
Miss Read (Dora Saint) 
These are two brief books of memories and reminiscences of her childhood and her grandparents, aunts, and uncles.  I love her language, not to mention her sweet reminiscences.  This would be a great book for a descendant who had grand/great-grand parents who lived in England in the early 1920s.  The pen and ink illustrations by Derek Crowe were fabulous. The books were also featured as a Wishful Wednesday post.

Annie's Ghosts:  A Journey Into a Family Secret.  Steve Luxenberg.
Luxenburg's mother had always claimed to be an only child.  It wasn't until after his mother died that he learned that she had a sister who had been kept hidden for decades.  Read it for the story, all the while learning ways to search for an invisible female ancestor.  (Surely you have one hidden somewhere behind a brick wall?)  An earlier post about this book is here


Mrs. Beeton's Every Day Cookery and House Keeping Book.
Mrs. Beeton
What list of women's history books would be complete without a recipe book?  This one dates from the 1890s and includes some of the most unusual recipes I've ever seen.  See more about it here.





American Grit:  A Woman's Letters from the Ohio Frontier - book coverAmerican Grit:  A Woman's Letters from the Ohio Frontier.  Emily Foster, compl.
This is a collection of letters written by Anna Briggs Bentley, a Quaker who, in 1826, moved from Maryland to Columbiana County, Ohio.  Anna was about 30 when she moved to Ohio with her husband and their six children, all 12 or younger.  One child died before the move and 6 more were born in Ohio.  She left behind  her mother and eight younger siblings in Maryland.  She had been raised in a genteel family with the comforts of money, servants, the society of friends, local shops, etc.  She was not a born pioneer, but she was strong-willed, determined, and willing, along with her family, to "carve a homestead out of virgin forest with the sweat of their labors."  As I read the letters I saw Anna move through the years from abject homesickness, to acceptance, to comfort.  I highly recommend this book if you'd like a glimpse into the life of a frontier woman from 1826 onward.  See a more detailed review is here.

The Girl Who Drew Butterflies:  How Maria Merian’s Art Changed Science.  Joyce Sidman 
    This is a children’s book but probably written at a 5th-grade or higher level about Maria Merian, a girl who was born in Frankfurt, Germany, in 1647.  Because her stepfather was a painter and engraver she learned to draw, to mix paints, and do various other things in his studio/shop.  She was interested in butterflies, known then as “summer birds,” and was able to find the time to examine, observe, and draw them.   She became a wife and mother but never gave up her love of watching and drawing nature.  I thought this was a wonderful book and especially liked the combination of Maria’s own illustrations, additional drawings, and photographs to show details for the text.

Meg, Jo, Beth, Amy: The Story of Little Women and Why It Still Matters.  Anne Boyd Rioux
     This is the history of Little Women, including how it came to be, and Louisa May Alcott and her life and home/family challenges.  Her father was not a great provider for the family and they lived in poverty most of their lives.  Little Women is, to some extent, autobiographical.  The author also discusses film versions of the book; its cultural and literary influence; whether it’s a book for boys as well as girls; and books and movies descended from the book. 
     In a way, I think of this book and Little Women as a treatise on the worth of women's lives.  Here are a few quotes that may lead you to think along those lines.
    Abigail Alcott [Louisa's mother], said regarding her husband’s not earning a living for his family, “I do wish people who carry their heads in the clouds would occasionally take their bodies with them.”
     In a paragraph discussing [Louisa's father] Bronson Alcott’s not earning a living for his family causing them to live in poverty, “Louisa once said in her father’s presence, ‘It requires three women to take care of a philosopher, and when the philosopher is old the three women are pretty well used up.’”  And later in the paragraph, “During the Fruitlands episode, Abigail wrote in her journal, ‘A woman may perform the most disinterested duties.  She may “die daily” in the cause of truth and righteousness.  She lives neglected, dies forgotten.  But a man who never performed in his whole life one self-defying act, but who has accidental gifts of genius, is celebrated by his contemporaries, while his name and works live on, from age to age.  He is crowned with laurel, while scarce a stone may tell where she lies.’  Louisa also sought to redress the wrong of Abigail’s life, making it her mission to honor her mother’s legacy.  If Mr. March is largely absent in Little Women, Marmee permeates every page.”
     In a review of the film with Winona Ryder, “Syndicated columnist Donna Britt believed other reviewers’ warnings that ‘nothing much happens’ were tantamount to saying that women’s lives weren’t worth making films about.  She praised the film for ‘honor[ing] life’s small wonders’ in a culture that is ‘hypnotized . . . by ever-more-wizardly special effects, stupid sex tricks and the “thrill” of cringing at yet another creative way to kill.’”

Letters of a Woman Homesteader.  Elinore Pruitt Stewart   
     Elinore was a spunky lady and a great story-teller, but beyond that, she had a very positive outlook which shone through in her letters.  And such experiences!  She moved to Wyoming in 1909 as a young, widowed mother of a 2-year-old to be a housekeeper for a rancher.  She determined to file her own claim for land and make a go of it.  She married the rancher, but more, she also succeeded in claiming land and growing enough food to feed her family for a year.
When you think of me, you must think of me as one who is truly happy.  It is true, I want a great many things I have n’t got, but I don’t want them enough to be discontented and not enjoy the many blessings that are mine.  I have my home among the blue mountains, my health, well-formed children, my clean, honest husband, my kind, gentle milk cows, my garden which I make myself.  I have loads and loads of flowers which I tend myself.  There are lots of chickens, turkeys, and pigs which are my own special care.  I have some slow old gentle horses and an old wagon.  I can load up the kiddies and go where I please any time.  I have the best, kindest neighbors and I have my dear absent friends.  Do you wonder I am so happy?  When I think of it all, I wonder how I can crowd all my joy into one short life.
Read a more detailed review here.

Book of Ages:  The Life and Opinions of Jane Franklin.
Jill Lepore
     Benjamin Franklin’s sister, Jane Franklin Mecom, is an unknown; a common, ordinary woman who lived a quiet life doing what needed to be done to stay alive and help her family.  She just happened to have a famous brother.  You can read a previous post here.
      In talking about the challenge of writing a biography when so little about Jane exists, Lepore said,
This is dispiriting.  For a long time, I was so discouraged that I abandoned the project altogether.  I thought about writing a novel instead.  But I decided, in the end, to write a biography, a book meant not only as the life of Jane Franklin Mecom but, more, as a meditation on silence in the archives.  I wanted to write a history from the Reformation through the American Revolution by telling the story of a single life, using this most ordinary of lives to offer a history of history and to explain how history is written:  from what remains of the lives of the great, the bad, and, not as often, the good.
It's no wonder Lepore says, “History is what is written and can be found; what isn’t saved is lost, sunken and rotted, eaten by earth.”   And, “What remains of anyone’s life is what’s kept.”

Happy reading!

--Nancy.

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Wednesday, November 7, 2018

Byker-Hill for Tenth Annual Great Genealogy Poetry Challenge

This post is written as a submission for Bill West's Tenth Annual Great Genealogy Poetry Challenge at West in New England.  This Bill's challenge.
Find a poem by a  poet, famous or obscure, about the region
one of your ancestors lived in.  It can be about an historical event, a
legend, a person, or even about some place (like a river) or a local
animal....  0r, if you prefer, post the lyrics of a song or a link to a
video of someone performing the song.
 
 Bill will publish all contributions on his blog on Thanksgiving Day, November 22. 

While researching the town of Byker-Hill (or Byker Hill or just Byker), in Northumberland, England, where my coal mining ancestors lived, I came upon a Wikipedia entry which led me to a song by that title.  It should have been no surprise that it was about coal miners.  The nearest I could come to learning its origin was that it was a folk song, written in the early 1800s.  It's probable that my Doyle and Laws ancestors heard and perhaps even sang "Byker Hill."  I share this in honor of the men in those two families who were all "collier lads."  (Sing along if you like:  the lyrics are below the video.)



            Byker Hill

            If I had another penny
            I would have another gill
            I would make the piper play
            The Bonny Lass of Byker Hill

            Chorus
            Byker Hill and Walker Shore
            Collier lads for ever more
            Byker Hill and Walker Shore
            Collier lads for ever more

            When first I come down to the dirt
            I had no trousers and no pit shirt
            Now I've gottin' two or three
            Oh Walker Pit's done well by me.

            Chorus

            The pitman and the keelman trim
            They drink bumble made from gin
            Then to dance they do begin
            To the tune of Elsie Marley

            Chorus

            Geordie Charlton had a pig
            He hit it with a shovel and it danced a jig
            All the way to Walker Shore
            To the tune of Elsie Marley

            Chorus

            Oh, gentle Jenny's behind the barn
            With a pint of ale underneath her arm
            A pint of ale underneath her arm
            And she feeds it to the baby

            Chorus

As is true of many folk songs I found three or four variations of lyrics and more than a few extra or alternate verses.  This seems to be a drinking song and perhaps, as the collier lads became more inebriated, the lyrics deteriorated.  You can see several variations here at Mainly Norfolk:  English Folk and Other Good Music. 

--Nancy.

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Saturday, March 10, 2018

Springing Forward for Daylight Saving Time

Are you ready to "spring forward" tonight or in the wee hours of Sunday morning?  Change your clocks (if you have to do it manually) before bed?  Lose one hour of sleep?  Have the morning dark continue an hour later, and the evening light last an hour later--at least according to the clock?  These days I don't think we have a choice if we want to arrive at work or other activities on time, keep appointments, and meet deadlines for travel on planes, buses, etc.

In his book Spring Forward:  The Annual Madness of Daylight Saving Time, Michael Downing relates the history of Daylight Saving Time from the time it became law in 1918 as "An Act to preserve daylight and provide standard time for the United States," to almost the present.  He also discusses the creation of standard time, time zones, the challenges of having no standard time, and plenty more.

Until reading this book I had not realized that prior to this law there was no standard time in the U.S.  Times between cities or farms could vary by a few minutes or as many as 50 minutes.  A 30-minute ride on a train could result in leaving and arriving at the same time.  Crazy.  The railroads needed the standardized time for the trains to run efficiently.

Part of the purpose of changing the clocks was to save fuel, the idea being that less electricity, gasoline, and oil would be used if it were light an hour later in the evening.  Apparently no one thought of the need for lights during the hour of darkness in the morning traded for the hour of light in the evening. 

There were plenty of people who were opposed to Daylight Saving Time:  farmers, theater owners, baseball players (who refused to play under artificial light), those who looked at leisure time with an eye toward laziness, those who thought government was messing with "God's time."  And there were those who loved it:  golfers, factory workers, automobile manufacturers (because auto sales increased), those who thought it saved fuel, and anyone who wanted an additional hour of light at the end of the day for leisure activities.  Some people and cities chose to change their clocks, others didn't.  It seems that New York City's choice to adopt Daylight Saving Time was the push needed for other cities to adopt it as well.

I searched for an online newspaper contemporary with my farming ancestors in Mercer and Butler Counties, Pennsylvania, which mentioned Daylight Saving Time with the hope of learning how those in the community felt about its adoption.  I guessed that my farmers, Fred Gerner and William and Gust Doyle, would not have been in favor of the change.  For one thing, they couldn't harvest dew-covered crops and would, therefore, have had to wait an additional hour before beginning some of the day's work.

Nothing from their area came to light but I did found "Daylight-Saving Petitions" on the front page of the Wednesday, September 3, 1919, edition of the Harrisburg Telegraph.
DAYLIGHT-SAVING PETITIONS
   Daylight saving petitions which the Harrisburg Telegraph was asked to prepare for the great number of Harrisburg folks who want an extra house of sunshine during the summer months now are ready for distribution.
   The petitions are directed to members of Council and call upon the City Commissioners to pass a daylight saving measure for the months of May, June, July, August and September.
   These petitions may be circulated by baseball players, amateur gardeners, golfers, fishermen and all others who have benefited by the extra hour of daylight.  Any man or woman who desires to stave off darkness next summer may secure one of the petitions or sign one in the business office of this newspaper.

Benjamin Franklin has been attributed as the first person to propose the idea of changing the clocks.  He did not propose changing the hands of the clock but suggested that people get up earlier in the morning to take advantage of every hour of daylight.  Wasn't Franklin a wise man to realize that no matter what you do with the hands of a clock, there are a set number of hours and minutes the sun will shine on any given day?  As if turning the hands of the clock will "save" the daylight, prevent its going, and prevent the sun's setting!

If you're still reading I'm sure you realize by now that I'm not a fan of Daylight Saving Time.  I'm not a morning person but the earlier the sun rises by the clock, the earlier I awake and arise.  I dislike giving up an hour of morning sun only to have it tacked on to the end of the day.  Where I live the sun rose at 6:51 a.m. this morning.  It will not rise at 6:51 a.m. again until April 17, more than five weeks from now.  And that's saving daylight?

Do you like of Daylight Saving Time?  Do you know if your ancestors who lived after 1918 had any opinions about it? 

--Nancy.

P.S.  For more about Daylight Saving Time and its history, see

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