Early February is the anniversary of when I began an earnest search for my ancestors. It was just over five years ago that, with my daughters both grown and generally independent, I wondered what I should do with my time. Was there something in particular the Lord had in mind? I’d devoted much of my time to being a wife and mother along with small and irregular part-time jobs and some church responsibilities. Should I get a full-time job? Get involved with additional volunteer activities? Make more quilts? What?
After prayer, the answer came: “Be a blessing to your family.” That was a surprise because I always assumed I was (even though I had never carefully considered whether I was). I served my family by caring for and supporting my husband and daughters; kept a home where meals were prepared, laundry was done, the house was clean, etc. (sometimes with their help); and I taught my daughters right and wrong, how to make choices, and how to become responsible adults. But if being a blessing was what I was to do, I decided to be more careful about being a wife and mother. Careful as I was, it seemed like I was missing, or misunderstanding, something. It seemed there was something else or something more I was supposed to be doing. I just wasn’t sure what.
I continued to ponder and pray and consider what I could do to be a blessing to my family and an answer came: “Find your ancestors!” And that’s what I’ve been doing ever since.
Seeking my ancestors is both a blessing for them and a blessing to me. My perspective and understanding of them, their lives, and the times in which they lived has broadened and deepened. I know I’ll never fully understand the circumstances and times of their lives nor some of their decisions, yet I’ve grown to love them as I learn about them. I’m grateful for the opportunity to search for -- and especially to find -- my foremothers, forefathers, and their families so that the memory of their lives can be preserved through my memories and the memories I share of what I’ve found.
In many ways it seems like I’ve made good progress, especially because I’ve been searching for my direct line ancestors as well as for the siblings of my ancestors. On the other hand, when I consider how many of my ancestors I haven’t found, it seems like my progress is slow and barely successful.
I’ll keep going with what I’ve set out to do until I receive inspiration to change directions.
–Nancy.
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Nancy, I'm certain that you are right about God's intention. What you are doing will be of value long after you are gone and so many of your family members will reap the rewards.
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean about the slow and unsuccessful progress, but there are days where that one nugget of history that becomes available is such a thrill, isn't it?
You are absolutely correct in calling this employment "a blessing" and like you, I am grateful that we have been directed to do this.
You're doing a wonderful job!
All the best,
Kat
From my view, you are meeting your challenge admirably. I always enjoy reading about your family and your search.
ReplyDeleteNancy since I had the same exact experience I can relate well to your post - only you put it much better than I could.
ReplyDeleteFull steam ahead until a course correction comes!
With regards,
Valerie
Nancy - It was only about five and a half years ago that I started family research! It didn't come as an answer to prayers that I am aware of, but I do like to think that there may have been a divine nudge in there. And from everything I have read about what you have been doing it looks like you are going in the right direction - certainly a delightful one for your readers.
ReplyDeleteKat, thank you for your kind and encouraging words. Yes, I've felt that thrill when some hidden nugget is suddenly unearthed - and always feel grateful for whatever additional information comes with it.
ReplyDeleteBlessings to you and your family history work.
Dee, thank you for your kind words. I'm glad that you come to visit and enjoy reading. Knowing people read my blog makes all the difference.
ReplyDeleteValerie, thanks for visiting. It's amazing to get that specific direction, isn't it? Thanks for becoming a follower. I hope you enjoy RootsTech.
ReplyDeleteGreta, I'm certain there was a divine nudge in your choice to pursue your family history. Thanks for your kind words about my efforts. I appreciate them.
ReplyDeleteI never asked for direction but I do feel like I got it! I was pretty much in the same position you describe after pretty much spending my child bearing/rearing years in the same way. I had several other interests but the family history search and telling the stories seems to have gently nudged the rest to the side.
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